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Hi,

Are you aware that many of your closest adults spend a lot of time trying to understand you and develop ways to support you?

I hear a lot about it, because I work with families on communication skills.

So much of what they say is good. I’m perpetually impressed by the stories parents tell about their kids. Some of you (perhaps all of you, I don’t know who’s reading this) have achieved such incredible feats already.

I have heard stories of wisdom from very young people, and this wisdom may be displayed by sensitivity or logic. I am guessing that not much gets by you, and I hope that with each passing year you trust your perception and intuition more.

Each person has a variety of ages within them. Perhaps one age for math skills, another for dinner table manners, and another for sports abilities. The ability to take in feedback, both celebration and suggestion, can also improve over time.

Yeah, the adults talk about that, and they use a term called “asynchronous development” to talk about some skills coming quickly and others taking more time to develop.

And they also talk about the challenges.

The adult(s) may want help because it is sometimes not easy to be you, not easy to be around you, or both.

(We both know that’s true of them too).

Is there something you want them to understand that they haven’t taken in yet?

You are too complex to describe with a single word or two. Labels come from comparison, and I am more interested in helping you understand who you are as a step towards getting more of your needs met.

What’s easy for you, and what’s hard?

How does your mind work? Is it fun to be you?

Whether we ever or talk or not, I hope you can ponder and discuss these questions with peers over time. I hope you arrive at fun.

peace,
Bob

{ 8 comments… add one }
  • Devon Swanson October 25, 2014, 12:50 am

    I love reading the things you post on facebook 🙂

  • Cait October 28, 2014, 11:51 am

    This is great!

  • Jade October 28, 2014, 1:38 pm

    I like the straightforwardness of this post. You clearly name the benefits of challenges a gifted kid’s often experience. You do so with kindness and compassion as well. Very nice, thank you.

    • byamtich October 28, 2014, 4:48 pm

      Thanks Jade! I think kids want to be understood for the fullness of their experiences, which understandably include highs and lows.

  • Paula Prober October 28, 2014, 3:39 pm

    I can imagine how great you are with kids, Bob. There is a warmth, humor, kindness and smartness about you!

    • byamtich October 28, 2014, 4:48 pm

      Fun! I accept those compliments with a beaming smile.

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